Closing Cycles

Before the year 2010 ended I wrote some friends on Facebook a personal message with the purpose of  improving each other’s lives and relationships as we usher in the new year.  Sadly though, no one bothered to post a response.  At this point I’d say that perhaps what matters to me does not matter to them or was it generation gap? 🙂  Anyway, I am re-posting here the message wishing perhaps that others may benefit from the story.

Dear friends,


2010 will soon be in the past tense and a new chapter in our lives will begin.

Friends, if you have read my note: It Matters,  I would want to do the teacher’s excise in our circle.

One favor before the year ends, please think of the nicest thing you can say about each other, (please include me and other people important to you who are not in this message) and write it down. You could send it as a reply to this message if you wish others to know, or send what you have written as a personal message.

If you wish and if necessary, you could also include the things you do not like or things that we need to improve on. Promise, I’ll take it constructively. It would also be a means for us to improve our lives and relationships as we usher the new year.

This may sound crazy to you but trust me, it really matters to me… the things you have to say.  If you feel though that it is not, I’ll understand and take it as a generation gap story. 🙂

In closing, I would like to share this link to welcome 2011:


Letter from the universe

The top 10 things dead people want to tell living people are:

1. They’re not dead.
2. They’re sorry for any pain they caused.
3. There’s no such thing as a devil or hell.
4. They were ready to go when they went.
5. You’re not ready.
6. They finally understand what they were missing.
7. Nothing can prepare you for the beauty of the moment you arrive.
8. Don’t try to understand this now, but life is exceedingly fair.
9. Your pets are as crazy, brilliant and loving, here, as they were there.
10. Life really is all about love, but not just loving those who love you…

In their own words,
The Universe


Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy

Desiderata, Max Ehrmann